Congratulations! You proposed (or were proposed to), and are getting ready to spend the rest of your life with someone.
Right after the engagement, before the wedding planning and pinterest boards begin in earnest, you’ll need to check these off your list to make your life a little easier.
- Call your friends and family: While you may be dying to post that ring-pic on Instagram, share your proposal pictures on Facebook, or send a huge group message to let people know that you’re engaged, there are a few people in your life who deserve to know before the masses find out. Call your families and your close friends, and if need be, enlist their help to let extended family know. Then, go ahead and post those pictures and status updates! Are you the one proposing or planning way ahead? It might be useful to actually make a list of who needs to know and in what order!
- Get your ring(s) insured: This might not seem like the most romantic thing to do soon after your engagement, but trust me on this one; you’d really rather be safe than sorry!
- Learn to get used to repeating yourself: When you tell people you’re engaged, EVERYONE is going to want to hear your proposal story. Remember, you may have said it fifteen times already, but the other person is hearing it for the first time!
- Set up a wedding website: Even before you know the concrete date, venue or guest list. you should go ahead and set up a wedding website to keep friends and family updated, and make wedding planning easier when the time comes for it. This might also be a useful way to avoid number 3; you can just share your proposal story on your wedding website instead of repeating it over and over again! Here at Wedeze, we can set you up with a Wedeze Wedding Website right after the engagement, and then upgrade and/or update it with more information as and when you start narrowing down details.
- Start thinking about groomsmen and bridesmaids: These people will undoubtedly be an important part of your wedding! So whether you’ve known who your maid of honour was going to be since you were five or not, now’s a good time to decide who you want by your side throughout this special journey!
- Plan your engagement party: For some people, engagement parties are part of the ‘wedding week’ and are thus held long after the actual engagement, while for others, engagement parties are held soon after the engagement. Sit down with your spouse-to-be, your families and close friends, and nail down the details of your engagement party.
- Set up a savings account: No matter how big or small, weddings cost money. The best time to start saving up for them is as soon as you know you’re going to get married!
- Vague details: While you may not be ready to nail down a date, it might be a good time to start thinking about the rough time you might like to get married. Also, while you may not start on guest lists this early, it can be useful to try and estimate how many guests you’re planning to have. This helps with number 7, too!
- Start collecting ideas: Whether you’ve known what your dream wedding was going to look like since you were ten, or whether you’re just getting started with the dreaming, it can be helpful to have a folder (on your computer AND otherwise) or binder to collect your ideas in. This will make planning the wedding much easier when time comes for it, for both of you, as well as for those who will be assisting you with the planning.
- Consider pre-wedding counselling: Whether this is a tradition in your family or not, pre-wedding counselling is a great way to get to know each other better, and to start to address all those important questions about kids, finances, careers, and the like.
What steps do YOU think are useful for newly engaged couples? Feel free to share with us below!